This section is for people who’ve had limited or no previous experience with counseling, and are wondering how it might benefit them. Good therapy is a commitment to yourself. It’s also an investment of your time, energy and money in your healing and well-being.

I’ll use the words “counseling” and “therapy” interchangeably in this section. 

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Counseling can be helpful in a number of different ways. First, processing and healing from past trauma or hurt can help you grow from these experiences and move forward with your life.

It may help to think of this in a different way. Let’s say you sprain your ankle. Eventually, even if you received no medical attention, the bruising would disappear, the swelling would go down and the pain would lessen or go away all together. But even a year or more after the initial injury you might notice that you can’t play your favorite sport anymore, and that your ankle hurts when you move it a certain way or on cold days.  You may also notice that the ankle feels weaker than before the injury, it just doesn’t feel or work the same as it did before.

Our emotions work much the same way as our physical bodies. Grief, trauma, pain, sadness, betrayal, loss, etc. all leave marks on us. Ignoring these emotions (and the painful memories that go with them) can give us the illusion that we’re “doing fine,” but like the sprained ankle, you may find that you’re just not the same as you were before.

Perhaps you have trouble with relationships, nightmares, vertigo, chronic headaches with no known medical cause, periods of intense anxiety, difficulty concentrating, anger that feels out of control, or frequent crying spells. Or maybe you just don’t feel like yourself.

When we ignore our emotions, we can start to feel “stuck” in our pain, or in areas of our lives. When we can look honestly at these emotions, give them words and process them, investigate their causes, and nurture ourselves, we can set the painful feelings free so we can move forward.

Back to the sprained ankle metaphor: let’s say you decide to see a physical therapist for that ankle. You may find that with time, effort and attention, you might be able to strengthen and heal your ankle so that you could eventually feel better, and even go back to playing your favorite sport again. 

Ask yourself this: is there anything in your past that’s keeping you from living your present life to the fullest? Emotional wounds, much like physical ones, need our attention so they can heal fully. Unfortunately, ignoring old wounds, boxing them up, or pushing them down doesn’t heal them no matter how much time passes. 
Now, you may be saying: “but I had a fairly happy childhood, and I don’t have any past trauma, how can counseling benefit me?” 

Another one of the ways in which therapy can be beneficial is when you’re feeling stuck, lost, or lacking direction or motivation. Sometimes when we’re suffering, or our life isn’t working how we want it to, we lack the awareness to see our own patterns, or what we might be doing (or not doing) that contributes to our problems. 

Sometimes it can help to share your thoughts and feelings with an impartial person. I’m always amazed at how the simple act of listening to someone can be so powerful. It’s also powerful to have our feelings validated, which most people don’t experience while growing up, or in their everyday interactions.

Lastly, there are a wide range of issues that fall in between the areas mentioned above. Sometimes, for a variety of reasons, people live with low self-esteem, general sadness, anxiety, or difficulty starting or maintaining relationships with others.
Others have chronic physical complaints (such as headaches, teeth grinding, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, digestion problems, etc.) that have been tested by doctors and don’t seem to have a medical basis.

And often, couples come to a point where they need help with communication or with navigating a change in the relationship (such as becoming parents, grown children moving out, one partner losing a job, or beginning to question their sexual orientation). 

Counseling can be helpful in each of these situations. If you’re still unsure whether therapy can be helpful for your unique situation, feel free to reach out for a free, brief (10-20 minute) phone consultation.